Irritated, frustrated, and wondering why you haven’t been chosen! Asking yourself questions like, why aren’t you good enough? Why was that person chosen over you? What more do you have to do to get the prize? See many people think they want the prize, but don’t know what to do to keep the prize once they get it! I am not talking about the bedroom tricks, amazing oral skills, or money to buy yourself a relationship! Those things are easy in the grand scheme of things! I am talking about the real hard core ugly stuff that keeps you up at night, that rocks your spirit, that at times leaves you feeling powerless!
If you were honest with yourself, the reason why you haven’t been chosen is because you refuse to choose yourself! You have this expectation that someone should accept who you are, when you will not even look at and accept yourself! Somewhere deep down inside something is telling you that you are not worthy of the love that you desire! Unfortunately, we mask that feeling with degrees, houses, cars, makeup, or expensive clothing praying that it makes us more desirable and when it doesn’t, we are left in a state of confusion! We don’t understand what the problem is and we begin to tell ourselves stories about “them being intimidated”, “there aren’t any good men or women left,” or whatever it is that eases that anxiety so that we can sleep at night! We justify so much bs to avoid looking at the real culprit in the mirror out of fear, doubt , shame and the reality that you play a part in your relationship status!
You my friend have to speak life into you! Whatever that negative conversation that you have going on with only you, is getting in the way of you having a true authentic life! You are lovable regardless of your circumstances, but if you can’t see yourself as that, others will have a hard time seeing it as well. You are worthy and deserve to be treated as someone of value, but if you struggle with your worth, others will struggle seeing it in you as well. You are the best thing that this earth has to offer because you weren’t made to be like everyone else, but to be the best you in whatever form that looks like!
See, you are chosen! Chosen to step up to the plate to love yourself better! Chosen to be honest with the reality of who you are and to work on those parts that you do not like about yourself! Chosen to have the courage to prove to yourself that you are worth it! The secret to being chosen is learning to choose you first!